Midlife is Not a Crisis, It’s a Reclaiming of Your Crown—A Re-membering of Who You Are.

Jul 20

The world calls it a breakdown.
I call it a reclaiming of your crown—unapologetic, unfiltered, and long overdue.

They'll whisper about you:
"She's moody. She's got an attitude. She's... intense."

And maybe they're right.
Maybe you've stopped saying yes to things that deplete you.
Maybe you're not performing softness anymore.
Maybe your body is louder, your boundaries sharper, your silences deeper.

Midlife isn't a crisis. It's a re-membering—
a soulful stitching back together of the parts of you that were scattered, stretched thin, or silenced.

The parts you gave away:
To lovers who couldn't hold you.
To jobs that only valued your productivity.
To roles that praised your selflessness but ignored your soul.
To systems that fed off your "resilience" without ever asking what it cost you.
To the children, the community, the causes—beautiful and worthy, yes, but never meant to replace you.

What Does It Mean to Re-member?

It's not about reinvention or becoming someone new.
It's about calling yourself back—piece by piece, breath by breath.

It's looking in the mirror and seeing the woman you were before they tried to tell you who to be.
It's returning to your essence—before the shaping, before the shrinking, before the smoothing-over.

Re-membering is about integration.
It's the girl you were, the woman you are, and the elder you are becoming—all sitting at the same mesa, nurturing peace together.

This Isn't Just a Phase. It's a Biological and Spiritual Initiation.

Let's name it plainly:
What they call a midlife crisis is often perimenopause or menopause. A hormonal shift that touches everything—mind, body, soul.

And we're taught to fear it.
To medicate it.
To joke about it.
To hide it.

But this isn't the end of your vitality.
It's the beginning of your truth-telling era.

Let's stop calling it a midlife crisis.
It's hormonal. It's spiritual.

Your body is no longer willing to be quiet about your needs.
You may wake up drenched in sweat at 2am, heart racing, soul shouting.
You may forget names, but remember dreams you buried a decade ago.
You may feel rage you've swallowed for 20 years come rushing up like a sacred fire.

This isn't just about mindset.
Midlife rage, fatigue, brain fog, night sweats, libido shifts—they're not random.
They're perimenopause. They're menopause. And they're sacred invitations to shift.
Your body is talking. Let's start listening.

This is not dysfunction.
This is data.
This is initiation.

Your hormones are shifting, yes.
But your awareness is expanding.
You are becoming exquisitely sensitive to what is real and what is no longer tolerable.

This is not a medical failure.
It's a spiritual reckoning.

How to Support Yourself in the Re-membering

This season of life demands more than bubble baths and surface-level affirmations. It's sacred, layered, and often messy. Below are practical, grounded ways to navigate the re-membering with presence, love, and clarity.

1. Create Sacred Boundaries

Learn to say no with love, without the need to justify or explain.
Pause before committing to anything—ask yourself: Does this expand me, or does it deplete me?
Revisit your calendar and cancel anything that feels like performance instead of presence.

Support item:
A smoky quartz or black tourmaline stone—keep it near your phone or carry it with you to protect your energetic boundaries.

2. Honor What's Rising (Especially the Fire)

Let yourself feel without fixing. Embrace the full spectrum of your emotions as they arise.
Move your body in untamed ways—shake, dance, punch a pillow if you need to. Let it out.
Journal without censoring: What part of me has been silenced the longest?

Ritual suggestion:
Light a manifestation or release candle. Let the flame represent what you are reclaiming or releasing. As the candle burns, set your intention and surrender to the process.

3. Tend to Your Nervous System

Create a soothing bedtime ritual: herbal tea, a magnesium soak, and slow breathwork.
Notice where anxiety shows up, and instead of judging it, soften with curiosity.
Say aloud: I am safe to feel this.

Support item:
A Himalayan salt tealight holder for grounding light, paired with an herbal tea blend that includes adaptogens like ashwagandha or tulsi.

4. Make It Sacred

Create a personal altar with photos, candles, or items that represent your past, present, and future selves.
Write a letter to your younger self and burn it. Then, write one from your future self and keep it close as a reminder of who you are becoming.
Bless your stretch marks, your changing skin, your new edges—they’re part of your story and your sacred journey.

Ritual suggestion:
On the new moon, sit with your altar. Speak out loud: I call back every part of me I’ve given away. I am whole.

5. Find Pleasure Again

Try something new: a different scent, a new recipe, or a fabric you’ve never worn before.
Take yourself on artist dates—visit a museum, a park, or simply explore a new part of town.
Laugh too loudly. Touch your own skin like it’s sacred, because it is.

Support item:
A rose quartz manifestation candle, soft music, and a mirror ritual: Look at yourself and say, You’re still here. And you’re stunning.

6. Embrace Strength Training

Strength training is not just about building muscle—it’s about reclaiming your physical power and supporting your body through the hormonal shifts of midlife. As you move through perimenopause and menopause, strength training can help prevent bone loss, improve your metabolism, boost your mood, and enhance your overall vitality.

Start slow with bodyweight exercises, resistance bands, or light weights.
Focus on functional movements like squats, lunges, and push-ups to improve balance and mobility.
Consistency is key—aim for two to three sessions a week, and gradually increase intensity as your body adapts.

Ritual suggestion:
Before each strength session, take a moment to set an intention. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and say: I am strong. I honor my body’s resilience and its power to transform.

Support item:
A set of dumbbells or resistance bands—simple tools that make it easy to build strength at home, no gym required.

And Finally, Remember This:

You are not too much.
You are not behind.
You are not falling apart.

You are re-membering— gathering the pieces of yourself you gave away to survive.

You are putting yourself back together
the way you were before they tried to tell you who to be.

Let them call it a midlife crisis.
You know better.

This isn't your undoing.
It's your return.
To your body.
To your voice.
To your rhythm.

You don't owe anyone softness, silence, or smallness.

This is your time to take up space.
To choose yourself.
To live wide open and deeply rooted.

You're not disappearing.
You're coming back—clearer, deeper, and more you than ever.

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Marisol Garza